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The Disengaged Teen: Expert Strategies Every Parent Should Know (April 23, 2026)

The Disengaged Teen: Expert Strategies Every Parent Should Know (April 23, 2026)

Key Takeaways from Authors: Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop:

Why engagement matters
Engagement helps teens build confidence, resilience, curiosity, and ownership over their learning. Understanding your teen is the first step toward helping them become more engaged and can improve both their learning and their well-being. Disengaged Teen co-authors Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop identify four modes of learning that students use to navigate the academic and social demands of high school and beyond. 

The Disengaged Teen Book 
The Disengaged Teen for Parents

 

Resister mode
In Resister mode, disengagement is visible. Teens may push back, shut down, avoid work, or reject school altogether. This behavior often signals frustration, discouragement, or disconnection rather than simple defiance. 


What to do when your teen is in Resister mode: Jenny and Rebecca suggest that when your teen is in resister mode, treat their behavior as a signal that something isn’t working rather than simple defiance. Stay calm, get curious, and acknowledge what they’re feeling before trying to fix anything. Giving space can help de-escalate the moment and keep things from becoming a power struggle. Avoid lectures, nagging, ultimatums, or jumping straight into solutions, which can intensify resistance instead of resolving it. 

 

Passenger mode
In Passenger mode, teens do what is asked but remain emotionally detached. They may seem fine on the surface, yet they are mainly going through the motions. These students often need help connecting school to their interests, goals, and sense of purpose.  


What to do when your teen is in Passenger mode: In passenger mode, your teen may be going through the motions without real engagement, so the goal is to gently reintroduce ownership. The authors advise that you offer small choices, ask for their perspective, and connect tasks to a sense of purpose or relevance. Light check-ins work better than pressure to keep them moving. Avoid over-directing, doing everything for them, or labeling them as lazy, which can reinforce disengagement. 

 

Achiever mode
In Achiever mode, teens perform at a high level but are often driven by pressure rather than genuine engagement. They may look successful while struggling with stress, perfectionism, or fear of failure. Strong outcomes do not always mean a student feels connected to learning. 


What to do when your teen is in Achiever mode: When your teen is in achiever mode, they may be highly driven but also at risk of stress or burnout. Jenny and Rebecca suggest that you focus on praising effort rather than just outcomes and encourage balance alongside their goals. It’s important to broaden their sense of success beyond constant performance. Avoid reinforcing perfectionism or treating this as the only “good” mode, as that can increase pressure over time. 

 

Explorer mode
Explorer mode reflects deep, healthy engagement. Teens are motivated by curiosity, purpose, and a desire to learn. This is the mode where students develop the confidence and agency to take ownership of their growth.  


What to do when your teen is in Explorer mode: Explorer mode is when your teen is curious and open to trying new things, and it’s important to protect that space. The authors advise that you support their interests without attaching immediate expectations and allow room for trial and error. Keeping some time unstructured helps sustain this kind of growth and motivation. Avoid overscheduling or pushing for quick results, which can shut down their natural curiosity. 

Is My Teen Ready for College? Time Management, Organization, and Confidence for College (April 16, 2026)

Is My Teen Ready for College? Time Management, Organization, and Confidence for College (April 16, 2026)

Key Takeaways: 

  1. Consistency Matters More Than Perfection. 
    “Start with that one system that works for them… that consistency is really, really helpful.” – Angie Strong, Spring Valley High School 
  2. Support Independence Gradually. 
    “We’re developing humans… starting small where you’re providing that support but then scaffold it back.” – Dr. Cynthia Martinez, San Antonio ISD 
  3. Start Small to Build Lasting Habits. 
    “It can be just 10 to 15 minutes once a week to look ahead.” – Beth Oesterman, Lodi High School 
  4. Organization Goes Beyond Planners. 
    “Organizing your thoughts and taking notes… will help and go a long way in college and in life.” – Nancy Nauman, Visalia USD 

Parent’s Guide to College Visits: How to Plan, What to Ask, and What to Look For (March 19, 2026)

Parent’s Guide to College Visits: How to Plan, What to Ask, and What to Look For (March 19, 2026)

Key Takeways:

  •  Focus on Student Fit, Not Selling.
  • “Your job isn’t really to sell the school or say no… you’re teasing out of your student what excited them.” – Patricia Peek, Fordham University
  •  Approach Visits Like Research, Not Just Tours.
  • “Think of this not just as a tour, but as field research… you want to be a journalist… observe, verify, and collect your data.” – Dr. Cynthia Colón, Destination YOUniversity
  •  Compare Schools to Clarify What Matters.
  • “Go back to your notes and start to look at the things that these schools have in common or don’t have in common.” – Emma Adebayo, University of Wisconsin–Madison
  •  Explore Beyond Campus to Get the Full Picture.
  • “You won’t only be on that campus… spend some time around that town.” – Rebecca Donovan, University of Kentucky

AP Planning for Next Year: How AP Can Support Your Teen’s Path (March 12, 2026)

AP Planning for Next Year: How AP Can Support Your Teen’s Path (March 12, 2026)

Key Takeaways:

  1. Build AP Plans with Purpose, Not Pressure.
    “Strong AP plans are intentional. They aren't built around numbers; they’re built around alignment.” – Claire Lorenz, College Board
  2.  Balance Passion with a Well-Rounded Schedule.
    “We want them to surge forward in those areas where they really do have a passion… and provide balance across the full scope of their curriculum.” – Carrie Poehlein, Park Tudor School
  3.  Let Interest Guide Course Selection.
    “Encourage your student to look at courses they’re interested in… You may find a course that you didn’t think you would be good at, but after you took the course, you realized because of that interest you succeeded.” – Chandra Webb, KIPP Antioch Global High School
  4.  Embrace Challenge with Commitment to Growth.
    “Go for the challenge as long as you are interested and ready to commit to trying... what that shows is a willingness to learn.” – Laurie McDonald, Atlantic Coast High School

Demystifying the Cost of College: A Parent’s Guide (Feb. 26, 2026)

Demystifying the Cost of College: A Parent’s Guide (Feb. 26, 2026)

Key Takeaways:

  1.  Focus on Net Price, Not Sticker Price.
    “The vast majority of families do not pay the sticker price." Focus on the net price after grants and scholarship before ruling a school out. – Jill Glaze, Bunker Hill Community College
  2.  Use Cost Calculators Early and Often.
    “Don’t guess.” Use each college’s calculator early to estimate what your family might actually pay. – Kelly Nehring, University of San Diego
  3.  Stay Organized to Protect Your Aid Eligibility.
    Missing FAFSA or CSS Profile deadlines “can definitely reduce your eligibility,” Staying organized matters. – Kelly Nehring, University of San Diego
  4.  Compare Financial Aid Offers Carefully.
    “Make sure you’re comparing apples to apples.” Review grants vs. loans and evaluate each cost line by line before making a decision. – Lisa Berian, Spelman College