Resources from BigFuture Live
Check out recaps and resources from previous BigFuture Live events just for parents. Get more resources to help your teen navigate their journey on the BigFuture Parent Community.
The Disengaged Teen: Expert Strategies Every Parent Should Know (April 23, 2026)
The Disengaged Teen: Expert Strategies Every Parent Should Know (April 23, 2026)
Key Takeaways:
- Why engagement matters
Engagement helps teens build confidence, resilience, curiosity, and ownership over their learning. Understanding your teen is the first step toward helping them become more engaged and can improve both their learning and their well-being. Disengaged Teen co-authors Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop identify four modes of learning that students use to navigate the academic and social demands of high school and beyond. - Resister mode
In Resister mode, disengagement is visible. Teens may push back, shut down, avoid work, or reject school altogether. This behavior often signals frustration, discouragement, or disconnection rather than simple defiance. - Passenger mode
In Passenger mode, teens do what is asked but remain emotionally detached. They may seem fine on the surface, yet they are mainly going through the motions. These students often need help connecting school to their interests, goals, and sense of purpose. - Achiever mode
In Achiever mode, teens perform at a high level but are often driven by pressure rather than genuine engagement. They may look successful while struggling with stress, perfectionism, or fear of failure. Strong outcomes do not always mean a student feels connected to learning. - Explorer mode
Explorer mode reflects deep, healthy engagement. Teens are motivated by curiosity, purpose, and a desire to learn. This is the mode where students develop the confidence and agency to take ownership of their growth.
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The Disengaged Teen: Expert Strategies Every Parent Should Know
In this BigFuture Live, you’ll learn why teens become disengaged and how to better support them at home and in school.
Hear from education experts Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop as they break down the different learning modes teens tend to fall into, including resister, passenger, achiever, and explorer, and how each one shapes motivation, stress, and behavior.
You’ll walk away with practical strategies to communicate more effectively, reduce pressure, and help your teen re-engage in a way that works for them.
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Disengaged Teen: Intro
This video introduces student engagement through a personal story from education researcher Jenny Anderson, co-author (with Rebecca Winthrop) of The Disengaged Teen. Reflecting on her child’s experience during COVID-19, Anderson shows how traditional measures like grades can hide true engagement—revealing that some high-achieving students may actually be disengaged, while others flourish when pressure is removed. The video underscores engagement—curiosity, motivation, and agency—as the foundation of real learning, and highlights how difficult it can be for adults to accurately recognize it.
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Disengaged Teen: Resister
This video features Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop, co-authors of The Disengaged Teen, introducing the concept of “Resister Mode”—a form of student disengagement where learners push back against school demands. Drawing on research and real-life examples, they explain how resistance is often misunderstood as defiance or laziness, when it can actually signal a mismatch between students’ needs and their learning environment. The video emphasizes that recognizing and addressing Resister Mode is key to re-engaging students by fostering autonomy, relevance, and a stronger sense of purpose in their learning.
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Disengaged Teen: Passenger
This video features Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop, co-authors of The Disengaged Teen, exploring “Passenger Mode”—a form of disengagement where students go through the motions of school without genuine interest or ownership of their learning. They explain how these students often appear compliant and successful on the surface, yet lack curiosity, motivation, and a sense of purpose. The video highlights why Passenger Mode can be difficult for educators and parents to detect, and stresses the importance of cultivating agency and deeper engagement to move students from passive participation to active learning.
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Disengaged Teen: Achiever
This video features Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop, co-authors of The Disengaged Teen, examining “Achiever Mode”—a form of disengagement where students are highly successful by traditional standards but driven primarily by external validation, such as grades and praise. They explain how these students can appear fully engaged while lacking intrinsic motivation, curiosity, and a genuine love of learning. The video highlights the risks of overperformance without purpose and emphasizes the need to help students develop internal motivation, resilience, and a stronger sense of ownership over their learning.
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Disengaged Teen: Explorer
This video features Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop, co-authors of The Disengaged Teen, introducing “Explorer Mode”—the most engaged state of learning, where students are driven by curiosity, purpose, and a desire to understand the world around them. They describe how Explorer Mode reflects deep, intrinsic motivation, with students taking ownership of their learning and embracing challenges as opportunities to grow. The video emphasizes that fostering this mode requires supportive environments that prioritize autonomy, relevance, and meaningful learning over performance alone.
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Disengaged Teen: Healthier Approach
This video features Jenny Anderson and Rebecca Winthrop, co-authors of The Disengaged Teen, outlining a healthier approach to supporting student engagement across different learning modes. They emphasize the importance of shifting away from a narrow focus on performance and toward nurturing curiosity, autonomy, and purpose. Drawing on their research, they offer strategies for helping students move out of disengaged states—like Resister, Passenger, and Achiever Modes—into Explorer Mode, where learning is meaningful and self-driven. The video highlights the role of adults in creating environments that foster trust, relevance, and intrinsic motivation.
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The Disengaged Teen Presentation
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Is My Teen Ready for College? Time Management, Organization, and Confidence for College (April 16, 2026)
Is My Teen Ready for College? Time Management, Organization, and Confidence for College (April 16, 2026)
Key Takeaways:
- Consistency Matters More Than Perfection.
“Start with that one system that works for them… that consistency is really, really helpful.” – Angie Strong, Spring Valley High School - Support Independence Gradually.
“We’re developing humans… starting small where you’re providing that support but then scaffold it back.” – Dr. Cynthia Martinez, San Antonio ISD - Start Small to Build Lasting Habits.
“It can be just 10 to 15 minutes once a week to look ahead.” – Beth Oesterman, Lodi High School - Organization Goes Beyond Planners.
“Organizing your thoughts and taking notes… will help and go a long way in college and in life.” – Nancy Nauman, Visalia USD
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Is My Teen Ready for College? Time Management, Organization, and Confidence for College (April 16, 2026)
Teens today are juggling more than ever – schoolwork, extracurricular activities, and their social lives can quickly become overwhelming. In this BigFuture Live session, we focus on practical strategies to help teens build essential time management and organizational skills that set them up for success in high school, college, and beyond.
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Parent’s Guide to College Visits: How to Plan, What to Ask, and What to Look For (March 19, 2026)
Parent’s Guide to College Visits: How to Plan, What to Ask, and What to Look For (March 19, 2026)
Key Takeways:
- Your job isn’t really to sell the school or say no… you’re teasing out of your student what excited them.” – Patricia Peek, Fordham University
- “Think of this not just as a tour, but as field research… you want to be a journalist… observe, verify, and collect your data.” – Dr. Cynthia Colón, Destination YOUniversity
- “Go back to your notes and start to look at the things that these schools have in common or don’t have in common.” – Emma Adebayo, University of Wisconsin–Madison
- “You won’t only be on that campus… spend some time around that town.” – Rebecca Donovan, University of Kentucky
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Parent’s Guide to College Visits: How to Plan, What to Ask, and What to Look For
This BigFuture Live session helps parents and families turn campus tours into meaningful, confidence-building experiences not just quick walk-throughs.
Featuring insights from admission leaders, a college visit expert, and a best-selling author, this event breaks down how to approach college visits with purpose, ask the right questions, and help your teen find the right fit.
In this session, you’ll learn:
How to plan effective college visits before, during, and after you step on campus
What to look for beyond the standard campus tour
The most important questions to ask students, faculty, and admissions staff
How to evaluate “fit” across academics, social life, and campus culture
Tips for making the most of self-guided tours and multiple visits
How to help your teen reflect and make confident decisions
You’ll also hear practical advice on treating visits like “field research,” gathering real insights and capturing gut reactions that can shape your college list and future applications.
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Parent's Guide to College Visits
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How to Make Great College Visits
College visits are one of the best ways to figure out whether a school is the right fit, but only if you come prepared. This video walks students and families through how to plan meaningful college visits, what to look for on campus, and how to ask the right questions.
You’ll learn:
✅ How to prepare before your campus visit
✅ What to observe during tours, info sessions, and conversations
✅ Questions to ask students, faculty, and admissions staff
✅ How college visits help clarify fit and decision‑making
Make the most of your campus visits and gain confidence in your college choices.
#BigFuture #CollegeVisits #CampusTours #CollegeSearch #CollegePlanning #FindingTheRightCollege #HighSchoolStudents
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AP Planning for Next Year: How AP Can Support Your Teen’s Path (March 12, 2026)
AP Planning for Next Year: How AP Can Support Your Teen’s Path (March 12, 2026)
“Strong AP plans are intentional. They aren't built around numbers; they’re built around alignment.” - Claire Lorenz, College Board
“We want them to surge forward in those areas where they really do have a passion… and provide balance across the full scope of their curriculum.” - Carrie Poehlein, Park Tudor School
“Encourage your student to look at courses they’re interested in… You may find a course that you didn’t think you would be good at, but after you took the course, you realized because of that interest you succeeded.” - Chandra Webb, KIPP Antioch Global High School
“Go for the challenge as long as you are interested and ready to commit to trying... what that shows is a willingness to learn.” - Laurie McDonald, Atlantic Coast High School
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AP Planning for Next Year: How AP Can Support Your Teen’s Path
hinking about AP courses for next year? In this BigFuture Live event, parents get clear, practical guidance on how to help their teens plan an AP path that supports their goals without adding unnecessary pressure.
Our expert panel including AP teachers, a college counselor, and College Board leaders breaks down what AP really is, how colleges view AP coursework, and how to decide what’s “too many” (and what’s just right).
In this session, you’ll learn:
What AP courses are and the wide range of subjects available
How to build an intentional AP plan based on interest, readiness, and balance
How colleges evaluate AP courses and exam scores
The difference between Honors, AP, and dual enrollment
What happens if a student doesn’t take (or doesn’t pass) the AP exam
How AP can support college credit, placement, scholarships, and career exploration
You’ll also hear advice from educators and parents on encouraging challenge, maintaining balance, and helping your teen choose courses that truly fit their strengths and goals.
Whether your family is brand new to AP or refining a multi-year plan, this conversation will leave you better informed and more confident about the road ahead.
Audience: Parent
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Understanding AP Potential
As a parent, you want to make sure your student is on the best path toward college success. This video explains AP Potential, what it is, how it’s connected to the PSAT/NMSQT, and how it can help you understand whether your student is ready for more rigorous coursework in high school.
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Demystifying the Cost of College: A Parent’s Guide (Feb. 26, 2026)
Demystifying the Cost of College: A Parent’s Guide (Feb. 26, 2026)
Key Takeways:
The vast majority of families do not pay the sticker price." Focus on the net price after grants and scholarship before ruling a school out. - Jill Glaze, Bunker Hill Community College
"Don’t guess.” Use each college’s calculator early to estimate what your family might actually pay. - Kelly Nehring, University of San Diego
Missing FAFSA or CSS Profile deadlines “can definitely reduce your eligibility,” Staying organized matters.- Kelly Nehring, University of San Diego
"Make sure you’re comparing apples to apples.” Review grants vs. loans and evaluate each cost line by line before making a decision. - Lisa Berian, Spelman College